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Real stories

Real Stories

Real proposals, commissions and weddings, told with the consent of the people in them and in their own words, or not told at all.

An open notebook beside a ring box on a kitchen table, one cup of coffee half finished

The most useful thing the Journal could publish is what actually happened: the ring that took eleven weeks because the stone was hard to find, the proposal that moved indoors when the storm came, the grandmother's stones that became three pieces for three sisters. Those stories exist, and the studio hears them every week. They are not on this page yet, because a real story is published only when the people in it have agreed to it in writing, the material is theirs, the photographs are cleared and the piece has been approved before it goes live.

This section names the ten formats a story can take. Each one carries its own interview questions, its own consent, its own image permissions and its own rules on how anonymity works and which venues, suppliers and jewellery details may be recorded. It is an honest empty room with the furniture already in it. Nothing here is invented to fill the space, and nothing ever will be.

If you are a Ruschin client and would like your proposal, ring, wedding or anniversary piece told properly, tell Gavin and he will take you through how it works. Anonymised stories are welcome; a couple can be 'a doctor and a teacher in Parkhurst' and the story loses nothing.

Before a story is told, Gavin sets out what it covers, the questions he or a writer will ask, the consent that has to be given in writing, the photographs that can and cannot be used, the venues and suppliers that may be named and on what terms, and the disclosures that appear with the piece. Every story is read and approved by the people in it before it is published, and can be withdrawn afterwards on request. Until the first one is ready, the practical guides below are where most of these stories begin.

Story formats

Ten ways a real story is told.

Each format has its own interview questions, consent requirements and image permissions. A story is published only when the people in it have agreed to it and the material is real.

  • Real proposals

    The format for a real proposal story: the decision, the moment itself and the hour afterwards, told only once both people have agreed to it in writing.

  • Behind the ring

    The format for a behind-the-ring story: how a real ring was chosen, what made the decision hard, and what the person would tell someone starting the same search.

  • From sketch to finished piece

    The format for a commission told stage by stage: the first conversation, the sketches, the wax and the finished piece, in the order it actually happened.

  • Real weddings

    The format for a real wedding story: the day itself and the decisions that shaped it, told once the couple and anyone named in it have agreed.

  • Destination weddings

    The format for a destination wedding story: the travel and the documents behind marrying away from home, alongside the day itself.

  • Heirloom stories

    The format for an heirloom story: the person a piece came from, and how it was kept, remodelled or worn on into a new generation.

  • Second marriages

    The format for a second-marriage story: what a first marriage taught, and how the ring or the proposal differed the second time.

  • Anniversary commissions

    The format for an anniversary-commission story: a piece made years into a marriage, and what it marks.

  • Supplier conversations

    The format for a supplier conversation: a verified wedding professional talking about their own craft, with any commercial relationship disclosed.

  • What I wish I had known

    The format for a short reflective piece written after the proposal, the ring or the wedding, in the person's own hindsight.

Before a story is told

The practical guides that most real stories turn out to be about: the proposal itself, the commission and the piece that comes later.

Heirlooms and the pieces with history

The stories that tend to be about more than one generation.

By location

In the Wedding Guide

Questions

Asked often.

Why are there no stories published yet?

Because the consent, source material, image permissions and approval that each one needs have to be gathered person by person, and the Journal launched with the formats defined and that work still to do. It would have been easy to fill the section with composite or invented stories that sound plausible. That would undermine everything else the Journal says about truth, so the section waits. Stories will be added as they are agreed.

Can our story be anonymous?

Yes. Each format allows first names only, initials, a description such as 'a couple in Pretoria' or full anonymity, and the level is chosen by you in writing before anything is drafted. Photographs can be of the ring alone, of hands, or omitted. Venues and suppliers are named only with their agreement and only if they are verified in the Wedding Guide. The story loses very little, and often reads better for it.

Can a story name the venue or the photographer?

Only with that business's agreement, and only if it is verified in the Wedding Guide, so that a name in a story is never a hidden recommendation. Where a couple wants to thank a supplier who is not yet verified, the story can describe the kind of place or service without the name, and the Guide can start verification separately. Jewellery details are included only as the couple approves them; the price is never published unless they ask for it.

What will you never publish?

A story without written consent from everyone identifiable in it. A quotation nobody said. A photograph without permission. A venue or supplier named as a recommendation without verification. A price paid for a ring, unless you ask for it to be included. Anything about a proposal that has not yet happened. And nothing is published until the people in it have read the final draft and approved it.

The next step

Tell Gavin your story, on your terms.

If you would like your proposal, ring or wedding told in the Journal, send Gavin a message. The consent and permissions are agreed in writing before a word is drafted.

Testimonials

In their words.

  • “I decided to get engaged while my lovely girlfriend went to the UK for a short trip and I used the time to get a ring made while she was away. Gavin and his team gave me great advice and freedom. They helped me create and design my own ring, and taught me so much about the choices I have. They made the whole process a fantastic experience and I will totally send my friends back for the one on one experience.”

    Willie NelFreelance filmmaker
  • “Gavin and his firm were recommended to us by a mutual friend. From the very first contact, Gavin conducted himself in a very friendly but professional manner. Gavin clearly demonstrated the love and understanding of his business. His attention to detail and willingness to listen to our needs was very reassuring. We are extremely pleased with the design, quality of our jewellery and the superb service. It was certainly one of the best shopping experiences we have had. Our friends have found Gavin amazing and are very impressed with their purchases. On purchasing diamonds, we highly recommend others to contact Gavin. We certainly look forward to doing business with his company for years to come.”

    Dusanka and Robert CosicWales, UK
  • “My experience with Gavin was nothing less than exceptional. He provided excellent customer service, quality diamonds, and competitive prices. He was very knowledgeable and an excellent teacher. I learned everything I needed to know before purchasing the right diamond. I would recommend him and his company to anyone considering the purchase of a precious stone.”

    Michael Zarrabi, M.D.Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery
  • “Great experience dealing with Gavin. I have had many good experiences dealing with Gavin. The jewellery and stones are breathtaking and very reasonable in price. The service we received was so efficient and good advice was given to us when choosing specific stones. We look forward to many more dealings with Gavin.”

    Daniel and Elise Boyer
  • “My experience with Gavin goes back some years. Not only have I and my wife been advised and purchased from the company; we have, in addition, successfully referred a number of our friends to Gavin. His knowledge, service and flexibility have ensured that we consult them on any occasion where we are thinking of purchasing jewellery.”

    Bernard FreemanCEO, European Healthcare Group PLC, London
  • “Gavin Ruschin has been my preferred supplier of diamonds and designer jewellery for the past five years. During this period of knowing Gavin, I feel extremely privileged to have a supplier of such character and integrity servicing me personally, my company The BLD Group and our clients. Gavin has through excellent service become one of the most credible suppliers on our books. His honesty, unconditional professional service, excellent pricing and pleasant manner have earned him the respect and reputation of the highest degree amongst my clients, which include professional sportsmen and sportswomen, leading business people and politicians.”

    Bruce V DavidsonExecutive Chairman, The BLD Group